So as you could’ve probably guessed, I’m back from my vacation! aaaaand some of you have been caught off-guard by the fact that I’m now no longer a part of dA, nor any of the groups from it (Sixfold, pmde, kitty-katty-city). I realize that I didn’t give any of you an explanation as to why I decided to do this, and since you’ve all been so great to me for the last two or so years, I figure I owe you all an explanation.
i am just gonna say that i think the part about “internet relationships are not real” is entirely bullshit for a variety of reasons. furthermore, i have a very hard time understanding why you would just give in to following some mantra someone tried to push into your head. just because people like to repeat things a lot does not at all make them correct.
all of my good, lasting, in-real-life friendships have started out as online friendships. every single one of them. i have met lots of people because of knowing them online. I met about a dozen people in japan who i would not have met if we didn’t know each other and talk online. I met people from the OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD because I talked to them and interacted with them online.
I do not, at all, understand how that could not be real, and how my first beginnings of friendship with them could not be real. It is like someone telling me that I don’t love my sister just because I don’t see her very often at all - it has no real basis in anything factual and is just spewed out as an easy solution to more complex problems of time management and getting lost in tumblr circles or dA groups.
also, I probably should bring up, I met both my husband and my boyfriend through online interaction. I have known them both for about… 8 years now! so, please actually think about the toxic garbage people try to shove down your throat, and consider not listening to others just because they talk a lot and loudly. even so-called “friends.”
maybe all of *your* internet relationships are not real, as evidenced by your callous and casual disregard for them, but do not lump *all* internet relationships into that category. it is both asinine and absurd, and a little insulting to all the lasting ‘net relationships out there.
try, maybe once, to think for yourself instead of letting others think for you.