Ahh… yeah. I’ve had to deal with that before. It’s really difficult because people are pretty prone to making their minds up and then not wanting to change them. You have to actively fight that, and it’s just not worth it for a lot of people or they don’t understand they’re even doing it. If she’s not interested in understanding your point of view - you might want to ask if she is worth keeping as a friend. Friends are supposed to be understanding and supposed to do what they can to be supportive within their own limits, but if she’s not able to be understanding or supportive and sees bad intention in you where there was simply error, then it’s going to be really hard to keep someone like that as a friend if she doesn’t make some changes. And.. that’s going to be difficult if she automatically sees you as the “Bad Guy” for whatever your mistake was. It’s a pretty horrible thing to realize you might be losing someone because they don’t want to understand. You can’t really do anything else except state clearly and openly that you never meant for whatever she misinterpreted to be taken that way, and once you’ve done that as patiently as possible, that is the extent of what you can do. Well, you can try talking about how upset it is making you that she won’t sit back and try to understand where you’re coming from, but if you’ve tried that to no success, all you can really do is wait and see if she comes around or not. Sometimes this means for days, sometimes for weeks, and sometimes it never happens. Preparing yourself for that inevitability is what I tend to do. I’m sorry to hear about this, anyway - it always sucks really bad, and it’s never a fun situation to deal with.
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