well, sometimes that’s just not possible… you have to keep your mental and physical health as the MOST IMPORTANT thing to you - this is REALYL REALLY REALLY IMPORTANT TO KEEP IN MIND! FUCK the people who are trying to defend her actions - they were WRONG. she does not need reinforcement over what she did, and you ought to stay away
my mom is also not very good in the head, and as much as i’d like a good relationship with her, I know it’s not really in my best interest to maintain that. your mom is abusive and needs help. you should not feel obligated to do anything to or for her. like, i cannot emphasize enough, people have done many horrible things out of “love”… that doesn’t excuse their actions at all though. ACTUAL love should be letting people do what is best for them, even if you cant understand it, you know? manipulative, broken, flawed love is trying to control others… and isn’t really even love…
so, my advice, stay away for a really long time and limit yourself in how much you talk to her. it will hurt, but it’s important that you not fall back into being stuck in a goddamn literal crazyhouse when you don’t belong there at all. as much as she might cry out and yell you have to be firm! this is the most important time of your life to be firm and to find a backbone! sometimes the right option hurts the most because you thnk about “what if she became ok again?” but you can’t entertain those thoughts - you have to act on her previous behavior, which was to be controlling and limiting, which is NO GOOD and is BAD under every circumstance!